How to Give Your Girl A Mind-blowing Orgasm

Eating Your Girl Right: (Yes, it’s finally being posted!)

We get at LEAST five people a day that us questions about performing oral sex on women, and if we can recommend any tips or techniques, so here’s a guide I’ve written for y’all! :)

Cunnilingus (the female version of a blowjob) is a very important skill to master since most women are absolutely CRAZY about getting eaten out, and rightfully so. (As passionate as males are about getting a blowjob, most females are the exact same way when it comes to being eaten out). Unfortunately, there are quite a few women who find that their partner really lacks in the cunnilingus department, which can, as a result, have quite a large impact on their sex life. 

There is no shame when it comes to not really knowing HOW to pleasure your woman orally, and below you’ll find a fairly long list of tips and techniques you can try the next time you decide to go down on her!

1) Using Your Tongue

You’re going to be exercising your tongue quite a bit when going down on a woman, so you need to make sure your tongue is completely relaxed. A woman’s vagina is VERY sensitive, and she won’t take kindly to you “spearing” her with a pointed tongue, as this tends to actually desensitize the vagina. Also be sure to use smooth, steady, and slow rhythmic licks. Don’t go too fast, trust me, she’ll enjoy it a lot more if you’re slow about it.

2) The Clitoris

Most women can’t handle having their clitoris stimulated with direct contact, simply because it’s extremely sensitive. When performing oral sex on her, never go to the clitoris right away. Slowly work your way towards it, making soft, gentle motions around her clitoris and NEVER use your teeth unless you’ve been told otherwise. Make varied movements while you’re working on her clitoris, like tongue flicks and kisses, and remember to be gentle.

3) Enjoy Yourself

Don’t be afraid to make some noise when going down on your girl, and make sure you make some eye contact with her. Some women go absolutely crazy when their partner is staring into their eyes while they pleasure them, and making noise like moaning or growling gently while licking her pussy can actually intensify her orgasm. Making noises and keeping eye contact with her will also show her that you’re enjoying yourself. There’s nothing better than having someone go down on you who absolutely loves performing oral sex! Make her believe that her pussy is the best thing you’ve ever tasted.

4) Be Patient

Most women won’t orgasm within the first couple minutes of stimulation by mouth. That only happens in pornos. Be patient with her, and take your time. Once you’ve found her “hot spot”, make sure you stay there and finish what you’ve started. 

5) Use Your Hands

A combination of licking/sucking and using your hands to stimulate her will have her going crazy. For example, while you’re working on her clitoris, slowly insert a finger inside the opening of her vagina, barely moving it. Never thrust your finger inside her vigorously unless she asks. This may turn her off completely and could even cause her some pain. Remember, keep your movements steady, slow, and gentle. Eating pussy is a very delicate matter!

6) Tongue-fucking

Some women like this, and some don’t, and it’s up to your partner to tell you what she’s into. Since most women are extremely sensitive when it comes to their clitoris, it’s important to switch things up a bit and start using your tongue on the opening of her “hole”, so to speak. Quickly dart your tongue around her hole, teasing her around the opening of her vagina before slipping it inside. This will excite her and will keep things interesting. 

7) Face-shaking and sucking noises

Don’t shake your face, and refrain from making sucking noises. BOTH of these are a huge turn off for most women. Instead, try telling her how good she tastes, how amazing she looks, how much you love her, what you plan on doing to her, etc. The list is endless. Don’t be afraid to talk dirty! 

8) Pay Attention to her

Let her guide you to what she likes! If you’ve found her sweet spot and she’s moaning/squirming like crazy, DON’T MOVE! She’ll probably get really pissed if you abruptly stop stimulating her once you’ve found the spot that makes her go crazy. If she asks you to go faster/harder, listen to her. If she asks you to slow it down, do it. Pay attention to her reactions, if she’s moaning, you know you’re doing something right, and don’t be afraid that she’s getting bored. If she’s bored, she won’t be moaning/enjoying herself.

9) Fingering and licking

It’s important to use a combination of fingering and licking when going down on your girl. Use your hands to spread her legs wide and use them to hold her lips apart while you lick around her pussy. Gently flick and suck her clit with your mouth and tongue, and slowly push your fingers inside her. GO SLOW AND BE GENTLE! I can’t stress this enough. 

10) The orgasm/ejaculation

Just because she has ejaculated, doesn’t necessarily mean you have to stop stimulating her. Once she’s orgasmed or ejaculated, be as gentle with her as ever. Think of it as “calming her down” after she has orgasmed or ejaculated, softly stroking, kissing, and sucking her pussy with your mouth and hands. 

Some fun things to try while going down on her to keep things interesting:

1) While you’re working away on her pussy (specifically the clitoris area), try spelling things out with your tongue over her pussy (the alphabet, her name, your name, etc!). If you want to get really creative and have some fun with it, try having her guess the things you’re spelling out with your tongue on her pussy.*

*NOTE: this could ruin the mood, so make sure you ask her first! 

2) Use ice cubes! Slowly circling an ice cube around her clitoris and pushing it inside her pussy while drive her absolutely crazy. 

3) Don’t get upset if she wants to use a sex toy such as a vibrator while you go down on her. Knowing when and where to use a vibrator is actually a great skill to possess, and when she gives you a sex toy to use on her, she’s putting her trust in you to use it correctly. Using your mouth in combination with a vibrator may lead to a very explosive orgasm!

The best pieces of advice you should take from this how to guide is to be patient, go slow & gentle, and LISTEN TO HER! She’ll tell you what she likes and what she doesn’t like, and if you listen to her, you’ll be considered the cunninglingus GOD! :)

toodles!

-A.H

**NOTE: i assumed that most of you would take into consideration that EVERY WOMAN is different and has different preferences/tastes, but apparently not. anyway, those reading this must realize that not everything I have posted in this how to guide will work for every woman. your best bet is to ask her if you’re unsure about what she likes. she won’t have an issue with guiding you!

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How to Give a Mind-blowing Blowjob

we’re constantly getting questions in our ask box from women asking for tips and techniques when it comes to pleasuring their man orally. below you’ll find an outlined and detailed guide on how to give your man an amazing blowjob he’ll never forget, and will keep him coming back begging for more.

since a man’s dick represents about 80% of his ego, it’s important to know how to treat him right when it comes to pleasuring him orally. the most important thing about performing oral on your man is enjoying it for yourself. show him that you want nothing more than to pleasure him with your mouth. be passionate about giving him head. knowing that you’re enjoying what you’re doing to him will turn him on even more.

1. Confidence is key:
the most important thing about giving your man a blowjob is to be confident when doing so. you might not be the world’s greatest blowjob giver, but the fact that your man is even getting a blowjob at all will definitely make him happy. you can also try expressing how you feel about giving blowjobs to your man. tell him you feel unsure about it. most guys will be understanding and will also be more than happy to guide you into doing what they like.

2. Before you begin:
make sure that you are both in a comfortable position. if you aren’t comfortable, this can greatly effect the way the blowjob turns out.

3. Once you begin:
you should start off by giving your man a mini-handjob. make sure you’re being slow and gentle when you start because this is what will really increase his arousal, plus he’ll be waiting in anticipation for what’s to come. slowly work him with your hand, then gently kiss, lick, and suck the head of his penis. you can also try putting his entire dick inside your mouth while he’s still soft. most men like the sensation of this.

4. Picking up the pace:
as his penis gets harder, you should stroke him with more pressure while continuing to lick his penis. go up and down his shaft with your tongue, and make sure you keep him wet. literally sucking on his cock will feel better to him rather than just moving your mouth up and down. never let his penis out of your mouth completely, and don’t be afraid to make noise! making noise will only further heighten his arousal, plus it will let him know that you’re enjoying it.

5. Deepthroating
don’t feel bad if you haven’t mastered the ways of deepthroating. it can be very difficult to master, and most guys prefer not having their cock deepthroated, because a girl can do more with it with less in her mouth.

if, however, you REALLY want to know how to deepthroat, you need to learn how to ignore your gag reflex. practice makes perfect. the more you practice deepthroating, the better you will get. just remember that it takes time.

6. Use your hands
most men find it arousing if you play with their balls while performing oral sex on them. just remember to be gentle. some even like having their balls licked and sucked, so don’t be afraid to try this with your man. but again, be gentle! and don’t be afraid to let both of your hands explore his body. run them up and down his chest and stomach, rub his nipples and thighs.

also make sure that you’re working him with your hand while you suck him. this will also further increase his arousal, and you’ll be using all the tools available to give him an amazing blowjob!

7. Eye contact
make sure you keep eye contact while you’re performing oral sex on him. since he’s probably going to be watching your every movement, looking into his eyes while you suck his dick can be a real turn on.

don’t be afraid to talk dirty to him, either! ask him if he’s enjoying what you’re doing, tell him how much you love sucking his cock. be creative!

8. A good cock-sucking technique
want to make him gasp out in pleasure? try starting at the tip of his dick and spiral downwards with your tongue and mouth to the bottom of the shaft. make sure you twist your mouth and head as you go down. and make sure you go all the way down, or as far down as you can.

9. Use your tongue
as i mentioned before, it’s VERY important to keep his penis wet. don’t be afraid to slobber, as unpleasant as this sounds. the flicking, wagging, and using good pressure with your tongue can be very pleasurable. try twirling your tongue around the head one way, then switch and go the opposite way.

another way to really get him going is to use your teeth, but be VERY gentle! never bite a man’s penis. he won’t like it, i can assure you. try grinding your teeth VERY GENTLE on the cap of his penis, and make sure there is a lot of saliva before you try doing this. start by having your teeth clenched and as you go down his penis, slowly open your jaws. flick your tongue as you move downward, and this will create suction against his penis. he’ll love it, trust me. but again, BE GENTLE!

10. The finale: cumming
some women aren’t comfortable with swallowing their man’s cum, and this is very common and also perfectly fine. yes, most men do get turned on if after getting a blowjob, the girl swallows their cum, but there is another way around this. if you don’t like the idea of swallowing a guy’s cum, have him ejaculate on your face/breasts/stomach, or wherever you feel comfortable. this will keep him turned on if not more than he would be by ejaculating in your mouth.

the end!

Uncircumsized dicks:
we also often get questions about giving head to guy’s with an uncircumsized penis. there isn’t THAT much of a difference between giving head to a circumsized penis and giving head to an uncircumsized penis, but there are SOME small differences.

most men who aren’t circumsized are EXTREMELY sensitive when they have their penis exposed by pushing the skin all the way down and holding it down to suck him. this can be painful to some, so make sure you ask him what he prefers. if he prefers it exposed, try this. if he doesn’t, leaving the skin up can make it a tad more difficult to create and maintain good suction, however, it is much easier doing the up and down motion this way.

pressure is important! make sure you’re squeezing with your lips as you move up and down his penis. consistent pressure and evenly squeezing with a hand and lips is what will make him cum, so make sure you’re aware of this! :)


hopefully our ‘how to’ guide will help all of you that have had questions about performing oral sex on your man! let us know if you tried any of our techniques, and how it worked out! :)
thanks for reading!

-A.H

How to Give a Mind-blowing Handjob

we get at least five questions a day asking for tips on how to give a good handjob to your man, so i’ve decided to make a post outlining these various tips and techniques to help you guys out! :)

How to Give a Mind-blowing Handjob:
having the ability to give a good handjob is a skill that is often overlooked. however, it can be an incredibly important way to get your man REALLY turned on before getting to the main course, if done correctly.

1) Start Slowly:
    it’s very important to start off slow. your initial touch is what’s really going to get your man tunred on. and by starting slowly, you’re forcing your man to pay attention to you and to anticipate what’s to come later on. make sure you pay attention to the ways in which you’re stroking his penis, both speed-wise and pressure-wise. pay close attention to his sounds and reactions. if he’s moving his body and making noises, you know you’re doing it right.
2) Lube it Up:
    unlike girls, most guys penises don’t self-lubricate quite enough to create any kind of wetness, which means that you should definitely have some lube on hand to help in the handjob process. the lube will allow your hands to move freely and smoothly up and down his shaft.
3) Using Your Hands:
    since the main ingredients for a handjob are hands + penis, it’s important that you know how to use them. you don’t necessarily have to grip his penis in the “fist” motion. mix things up a bit, try using only a few of your fingers to stroke him, and remember to vary your speed and pressure at all times. don’t be afraid to use both hands while you’re giving him a handjob. you can create various pressures and strokes while using both hands in unison with one another.
4) Mix it Up:
    the penis isn’t the ONLY lead actor during giving your man a handjob. pay close attention to his testicles, corona (the ridge where the head meets the shaft, and frenulum (the thin ridge that runs the length of the underside of the penis). taking the time to massage these areas of his penis every so often will really heighten his arousal. remember to be gentle and vary your pressure, too!
5) Different Strokes:
    using the same type of stroke throughout the duration of a handjob can get quite boring, so you should definitely take heed to mix things up a bit. while you’re stroking him, try using a twisting motion (be gentle!) while moving up and down. you can also start off with slow, short strokes and gradually turn into long, hard strokes.
6) The Finale:
    pulling all of the above ideas together will definitely create a mindblowing experience for your man, but you should also experiment with your own ideas! don’t be afraid to try new things. the best way for you to know if your man is enjoying the handjob is to pay close attention to his reactions. if he’s enjoying it, he’ll probably be moaning/making noise, and moving his body to the rhythm of your strokes. don’t be afraid to ask him if he’s enjoying himself, either!

one last point i want to make that can be VERY effective in giving your man an amazing handjob is to have him masturbate for you. he may be embarrassed by being asked this and may not want to do it right away, but if you explain to him that you really want to know how to give him a great handjob, i’m sure he’ll open up. if he’s still not completely comfortable with the idea, try blindfolding him. the idea is a bit kinky, but it will make him feel more comfortable if he can’t see you. while he’s masturbating, pay close attention to everything that he does. that way you’ll get some tips and techniques of your own for the next time you two are fooling around.

-A.H